Hey there everyone? I have a confession to make. I wanted to bring this up at some point and just didn't know when to. I'll definitely say 2020 was by far the worst year of my life, next to 2012. So I might as well get this off my chest right now. Besides the new drastic changes here on dA and dealing with surviving the Covid-19 pandemic as part of our new everyday life, there are more pages revolving the chapter of my life:
For over six month ago, On June 23, 2020, I'm officially been terminated from Carriage Green at Milford, where I've been employed there for 18 and a half years as a dishwasher since November 26, 2001. Let me explain how this will all building up from the beginning:
Back on my final work day on June 7, 2020, I was called out by my current dining service manager Timothy Cornish to come upstairs to one of the offices and fill out a statement on “Why was I following 'Batbrony'?” I told them I wasn’t following her. There were 3 instances on that day I saw her: 1.) When I was coming back from the harbor to bring back the hotbox, I just saw her coming up towards me, and we just said “Hi” and went on our way. 2.) As I was taking out the trash, I was passing by and I saw Batbrony sitting on a bench, outside at the courtyard through a window just looking at her for a few seconds. And 3.) I wanted to join the other servers and interact with them in the private dining room as they’re gathered together resting while I’m eating my meal between breakfast and lunch. But then, Batbrony entered and then immediately backed out and said “Just checking to see who’s in here?” During the beginning of lunch around 11:32AM, that was when Timothy dragged me up to one of the offices upstairs and had me fill out a written statement. I was then told to turn in my name badge and fob key as my former boss escorted me off the front entrance. Over 2 weeks later, I was told to call in on June 23, 2020 with the Executive Director along with Human Resource member and Director of Business Administration. They decided to terminate my employment on the phone. They also stated that I had prior written coaching and counselings for other incidents in the past over the years while working for Carriage Green for so many years. I was also received an “in the moment” coaching with Timothy, where I was told “Stop following Flower” as he whispered closely to me while I was passing by him and about maintaining space from Batbrony, just weeks before leading up to my termination. We were working in the same department. It was nearly impossible to not run into her, let alone maintaining distance from Batbrony. When I wanted to talk with Timothy, he responded “We already talked,” as he turned his back on me, without hearing out my side of the story.
The circumstance revolving around my termination centers with a former co-worker named Flower aka owlity / "Batbrony", who was previously a former friend, a fellow artist who made a big influence in changing my outlook on artworks, and an also, like me, an individual with mentally social awkward issues. I helped Batbrony once in getting a job at Carriage Green at Milford in 2011. But on the night of July 22, 2012, there was a fallout incident with Batbrony’s best friend, Courtney, over text messages that went out of context, which resulted in myself between "Batbrony" and Courtney no longer being friend anymore, which started our former friendship and working relationship to become strained and distanced for over the past several years up until now.
As the years went by, my work relationship with Batbrony has gotten worse to the point where I no longer recognize the friend I once respected and used to know is now gone and transformed into a completely different, callous, very vain, selfish, very manipulative person that would singled me out from the rest of the co-workers, which made me feel isolated, sad, uncomfortable. I felt used, back-stabbed and trampled on the loyalty I once had with her. Batbrony would even also resort to using other people to act as a middle man or neutral party to get her messages across rather than have any 1-on-1 talks or conversations. Instead of communicating over the phone or talking in person directly to resolve the problems, she would rather be texting, or use social media like Facebook, Discord and Instagram as her outlet to spread awareness or get her message across and then delete them shortly afterwards to hide her tracks and actions. Batbrony would also go so far in calling me a "stalker", which I am hurt deeply by this serious accusation when I was once a friend to her that I never imagined it would turn out like this. I heard from another friend of mine warning me that they've even called the police on me a several times in the past, due to the posting she made publicly a few times talking about me without names mentioned on social media and then later taken down, hints of being passive-aggressive.
I also have a short story to share revolving on the reason behind Batbrony's PSA notice on Art Theft. It was all started on a doodle that Batbrony drew during at Carriage Green in Milford. After she was done, she just threw it away in the trash. I was shocked to see that she would discard her doodle afterwards. I then took a picture of her doodle she drew. At the time, I was still admiring her work. I was never gonna repost this anywhere to begin with. Then later, the head server, Holly Scott, informed Batbrony of what she witnessed of what I did and told it to her. After being told that my act was wrong and "creepy", I did try to apologize about it. Aside from the now estranged broken friendship, I also felt a disheartening rift of distance being further from Batbrony as a result. Ever since then, I've deleted the picture I took because of the person who drew the doodle...I no longer felt it represents any form of admiration, value, worth or respect anymore. I do admit that my acts were wrong, but I also felt she perceived the wrong intent about me. I am just sad that she misunderstand the reason and intent beyond my act, which is telling of what was her current relationship stance between us. I wasn't trying to be a "creep" as you've accused me of as well. In a day or two later, Batbrony posts that undisclosed PSA notice in her Instagram page.
In recent months, the behavior with Batbrony became more distant than ever, continued to be evasive, passive-aggressive and pushed me away during work. I still missed her as a friend. The fact that she doesn't talk much by singling me out from the rest of the co-workers just makes the work environment feel isolating, unfriendly, unwelcoming, disheartening, toxic and left-out. Her face is always looking away. Not looking at me in the eyes when being addressed. There were something very off and awkward during those exchanges when taking silverware and dishes out of Batbrony's hands that felt not normal, compared with the other servers. Even by just being there, my presence now upsets her, which she would end up going into another location or literally go into hiding. Since the rise of her own mentally socially awkward disability is becoming more prevalent and negative towards me, I tried to keep my distance from her with less communication with her as possible, but still keep it respectfully cordial, if needed. But when it comes to my presence during being at work, it is far beyond my control since we worked in the same kitchen department and will eventually most likely run into each other. Such as waiting at the time clock for a certain time before I punch out, but in that instance, Batbrony enters the scene, thinking that I was stalking her and waiting for her to show up, which puts me in an unfortunate position of my outlook.
I strongly do disagree with the Benchmark Assisted Living’s stated reason for discharging me. I felt I was being set up for a wrongful termination in my circumstances. I didn’t have a good working relationship with Timothy Cornish upon first meeting him as the new Director of Dining Service manager and being new my supervisor at the time. I only known him for less than a year. All he does is just bark orders and not acting like a team player. Sometimes, he's never around and leaves early. To him, I was just an expendable scapegoat. Whenever the Dining Service director operates the dish machine himself, most of the time, it comes out still dirty. He just lazily throws it through by relying on the dish machine to do all the cleaning without any effort from his hands or what a normally assigned dishwasher had done differently than him. He has disrespected me for the way I do my job despite working there way longer before he came around. He comes off as selfish and rude person. He does not follow servsafe rules or other health codes and having a manager not practice the common safety skills is not acceptable. While he was the new kitchen manager, there were several other employees who didn’t last very long working there and ended up no longer around or fired, before I was terminated myself, both new and veterans workers alike. The behavior of the Dining Service kitchen manager is something seriously to be noted, someone in his position as a boss he should not be telling his employees he's working with sayings such as, "I'm the boss around here now, so get used to it!". Another time when I wanted to address a safety concern about handling soup containers, I told the manager, while he was cooking at the time, "For future reference, could you please use the smaller containers rather than one big large container because it was too hot and too heavy to carry into the dish room." In response, he said back to me, "For future reference, I get to do whatever I want." Unintentionally, I then jokingly blurted out "You're a dangerous man." And in retaliation, he said next when it comes to a shock to me, "So are you!". I tried to address these concerns to the Executive Director in the past of the current Director of Dining Services' behavior, but they chose to ignore it since it was more than a week ago that it happened. I’m getting the sense that raising concerns is most likely gonna put your job and yourself at risk.
All I ever did that got me under fire was just my presence itself upsets Batbrony who decides to play the sexist card with Timothy. So my presence cannot even coexist while on the job or interact with my former work peers? I felt like I was clearly being set up to fail and they would take the side of the woman's story rather than man's story, without ever giving the chance to defend yourself or say your side to the story. Or they just simply were looking for ANY excuses or reasons to get rid of me or separate me from Batbrony. They've done me so dirty....There was no fair judgment, it really felt one-sided and it was easy for companies to just take the easy way out by sweeping the whole mess under the rug by cutting their ties off with me. I honestly haven't done anything wrong, even on the day I was being dragged out, turning in my name badge, fob key and being escorted out. It was Batbrony who decided to use these situations that I was in the wrong place, wrong time and she took them to her own advantage. I also felt utter betrayal, back-stabbed, used and expendable rather than being respected or someone of any significance, despite working there for so many years. They even put in their reported claims of falsely accusing me of making “gestures” to 'Batbrony', which it is not true in my case because of my mental disability prevents the in-ability of such an inappropriate thought of intentional behavior to ever occur at the time.
The only saving graces about getting fired is that I no longer have to see some of the former co-workers who were being an obstacle or antagonistic towards me, like the head server Holly, who’s actions and behavior are clearly on Batbrony’s side, and the others outside of work who are related or connected with myself AND her that are siding on Batbrony's, and most importantly, seeing 'Batbrony' herself in person for being a constant reminder of where she decides to burn all bridges with me and her behavior is just utterly despicable as her upfront image towards me is nothing more a cowardly facade. Since she never made any formal apologies in person to me and always goes to hide behind her social media accounts to vent instead, this was a clear indication that Batbrony was a terrible individual with serious social issues and bad friend. My former friend is a snake, coincidentally, born as one and literally acting my one, behaving like a immature, woman-child that cannot be reasoned with and refuses to grow out of her comfort zone. Plus, with Timothy as the new dining service manager, the workplace environment was growing toxic. I do regret helping a “friend” like 'Batbrony getting a job at Carriage Green at Milford. That was clearly a big mistake on my part. I will admit that 'Batbrony' did made a big impact on my life and turned me into the artist I am now. An individual who I once looked up to and my reason she introduced me into becoming a digital artist and encouraged me to post my arts. Whoever thought we would no longer be friends anymore and then later she turned into a slanderous, sheltered, traitorous, backstabbing snake? I really felt I was being taken advantage for my kindness and then later, I was just treated like a nuisance. What Batbrony (aka Jean "Gina") did to me was tremendously devastating and a utter betrayal. Because of this, I will never help another friend or person in getting a job ever again, not at the risk of damaging my soul and mentality. She's definitely got socially awkward and trust issues. It's no wonder she doesn't have many friends that aren't close to her. I'm willing to bet that I wasn't the only person who decided to cut them off of your life because they make you feel uncomfortable. You don't know a person who's truly good and who's bad? Then again, your actions on your social media presence speak volume about your true self.
As far as some of you may or may not know, I myself was born with a mental disability, particularly with Asperger’s Disorder and some other mild autism. I suffer from anxiety and depression caused from my friendship fallout incident with the two girls. I also suffer from sensory processing disorder at times where the information and words aren’t coming to my mind fast enough to translate the information thought process into words and I end up stuttering in mid-sentences or couldn’t communicate normally at times. I also have a facial affect, where I don’t give off much facial expressions. And I’m also socially awkward myself, where I don’t get to talk or interact with people much, which sometimes ends up unable to talk my way out of trouble or defend myself. These disabilities may have played some parts to contribute revolving my outlook on life and how I ended being painted as a black sheep by my former work peers, resulting in getting terminated from Carriage Green.
And because of my past connection with now my former friend, I also ended up losing my passion of creating future artworks. This act by my former friend robbed me of all my motivation and energy to create content. The feeling and inspiration was just not the same for me anymore. I have yet to find a way to rediscover my joy and passion towards creating any art again. I'm currently still struggling to this day at the present. But at the very least, I can finally put some closure about them and move on to the next chapter in life.
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